17 Lessons by 17 | a late birthday post


 A birthday is just the first day of another 365-day journey around the sun. Enjoy the trip.

Obviously I procrastinated so much posting this. I actually finished this post in January but I delayed the posting because I don't have the perfect photo for this post (and still doesn't but I need to post something on my blog so who cares about perfect photo). By the time I'm posting this, I'm already 17 years 1 month 15 days old.

I turned 17 on January 11th! Yeay, I finally can take the KPP test. Actually, I already took it and praise to Allah, I passed the test🙌 I was so nervous before taking the test, the idea of needing to pay if I want to repeat the test made me really anxious. Luckily, I passed. So. Back to my birthday. I didn't have a celebration, my parents were busy and still are, but I did get some birthday wishes from the people I love and it was enough for me.

I've been meaning to write this post since my birthday last year, but I figured that probably it would be better if I write this when I am older than 16. 16 sounds too young, and 17 still sounds young but 17 means I have 3 years before I turn 20 so if it's rounded up, it's closest to 20 and it means 17 is quite mature for teenagehood, whatever that means.

So today, I'm doing the honor of sharing 17 main lessons that I learned during my 17 years living on Earth:

1. I actually don't know anything yet. Maybe today when I'm writing this, I'll see myself as a quite wise person for my age, but next year when I read this post again, I'll think that I was so immature and say "girl, you don't know anything."

 2. Read more. It'll show you a lot of things, types of people and bring you to many different places. If you can't experience it yourself, at least you know some perspectives from people who experienced those things.

3. Don't spend too much time on planning, spend it on doing what you want. Just imagine how many time you will waste to plan the perfect way to do something. Most of the times, improvising is a much better choice.

4. When a friendship ended, most probably you might have done something wrong too. Don't blame just the other party. Try to see it from their side. Or if you haven't done something wrong, just think that it ended for a reason. Everything ends eventually, right? Your friendship with that person just ended sooner than you expected.

5. You don't need specific time to be better. Why wait until the next morning if you can make at least a little difference right now?

6. Practice what you preach! Remember the times when you be yourself and don't belittle other people's pain? Well it applies to you too.

7. No matter how much people help you, if you don't want to help yourself, nothing is going to be better. Like people said, after all, in the end, you only have yourself because people will leave.

8. You don't always have to label yourself based on what you believe in. Just because someone doesn't label herself as a feminist, it doesn't mean that he/she worship sexism and fight against equality. Just because someone says he/she is not a Potterhead when he/she already watched the movies or read the series, it doesn't mean he/she hates it. Maybe he/she is just not that crazy of Harry Potter like a lot of people do. I am a Potterhead, though.

9. You have to accept that you're a Ravenclaw at heart even when you're sorted into Gryffindor on Pottermore (because you probably manipulated the quiz a little bit so that you'll be a Gryffindor). Accept what you are! Practice all the knowledge you have from the many self-love articles you had read! I am a Gryffindor at heart, though.

10. Mental illness isn't supposed to be romanticized at all. If those emo songs and pictures with really dark quotes will only trigger you when you're already triggered beforehand, it'll be better if you stay away from them. Some people find them comforting because they don't feel so alone and they can see that other people feel it too. Some people find them triggering.

11. It's not good to download things illegally because these things are the source of money to some people. Money is tight right now to buy music and movies, but try not to get too many things illegally.

12. DO NOT COMPARE YOUR PAIN TO OTHER PEOPLE. You are not in their shoes so you don't have a right to judge whether their pain is valid or not. Don't say "you never get hurt" to other people because everyone has their own definition of what hurt is.

13. Learning is hard, but it's most probably worth our time. Most of the times, what we don't even use the things we learn at school in our lives. Who use indices and logarithms in their daily routine? But it's good to learn a lot of things, who knows how we will use it in the future?

14. Say yes more but don't be afraid of the word no. 

15. Celebrate the little things. Be grateful for the little things and you'll feel more happy with your life.

16. Tell the truth but don't be afraid to keep a secret especially if it's other people's secret. 

17. Learning about other people will teach you something about yourself. And the more you know yourself, the better. It's important to know yourself.

Pypaa. xoxo

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